I've released fairness. I aim to live based on on the possible, not on the fair what is really possible. And that means, to me, because i have been on the journey for a long time, ind most of my relationships, i care for things, navigate things, integrate things much more than whoever else is there. Why? Because i can. If i was committed to fairness, i would say, why should i do more than you? I shouldn't. But i choose to because i know that if i take responsibility for caring for both your needs and mine, then over all, our needs will be cared for better than if i wait for you to do that, if you are earlier on the journey. So that that's a piece that that, for many people, is hard to and yet, if you accept it, im it ts a lot easier. I wouldn't do it beyond capacity. For many years, i was doing it beyond my own capacity, and i fried myself a bit. I'm recovering from that right now.